Like most communities, we run a spectrum. Some of us come out. It's timed, planned, rehearsed. Maybe it's even spontaneous, but we've been practicing it in our heads for a while. Some of us don't come out so much as we just finally explode. It's not a planned conversation so much as it's you sitting … Continue reading Out.
I've known this internally for a while, and was massively stressing out about how and where and when to say it, but it was only fairly recently that I finally burst and finally just said it - I'm asexual. More specifically, a panromantic asexual, and even more specifically, a panromantic asexual who lingers near the … Continue reading The thing that took me 40 years to say out loud
A lot of people believe they know how to do research, but what they're actually doing is engaging in confirmation bias.
I write because I have to keep talking to you. Because I want to meet you again - out of time, out of memory.I want to be surprised by you again, to be drawn into your story.I want to be curious about you again.I want to hear you, and feel heard.I want to unravel you, … Continue reading I write so that we can meet again
The interminable humorist and philosopher, Douglas Adams, once said: “For us, there is no longer a fundamental mystery about Life. It is all the process of extraordinary eruptions of information, and it is information which gives us this fantastically rich, complex world in which we live.” Have we lost mystery? Is there a difference between … Continue reading Extraordinary Eruptions of Information
If there's one thing literature through the ages has been clear about, it's that fortune is fickle. Changeable. Mischievous. Shakespeare knew it in the late 1500s, when he has Juliet beg Romeo to "Swear not by the moon, the inconstant moon, That monthly changes her circle orb, Lest that they love prove likewise variable." The … Continue reading “Swear not by the moon”
The U.S. election has just been called for Biden/Harris, and I'm definitely relieved. There's a lot of work that needs to be done in this country, and having a Biden/Harris administration will make that work somewhat easier to do. But unfortunately, this country has opened up the closet and pushed out all the skeletons. Our … Continue reading We have to do better
I'm not writing to fix myself, I'm writing to fuck myself up.
Nature is cool.
Listening to Gabino Iglesias talk about how yes, writing is hard, and you need to want to be a writer more than you want anything else. The heart of his talk? Do the work, don't give up. Ignore all the reasons why you can't. Find time to do it - on a break, on the … Continue reading Writing is hard.