Who We Grieve – And Why

I’ve been thinking a lot about the deaths of Renee Good and Alex Pretti. Like many people, I’m angry. I’m heartbroken. I want accountability. No one should die at the hands of the state. Ever. But to be honest, I’ve been extremely uneasy with parts of the discourse that’s emerged in response. I keep seeing … Continue reading Who We Grieve – And Why

I will not be inconspicuous

I realize this is a privilege we don't all have. But I do, so I will be obvious. Fascism isn't hiding. Hate is proudly announcing itself and painting itself as righteous. Hate is going to come for a lot of people, and too many people who don't hate aren't doing much, if anything, to stop … Continue reading I will not be inconspicuous

Throw away your blue bracelet

The recent blue bracelet fad, just like the pink hats and safety pins, are superficial and performative nonsense meant to make people - white people in particular - feel better for a hot minute and signal that they're one of the "good ones." Take it off. Set it on fire. This is one of the … Continue reading Throw away your blue bracelet

Update: The Hart Family Case

"The problem is, these women look normal." The post above that I wrote back in 2019 seems to be one of the most common ways that people discover my blog. I think it got posted on Reddit somewhere. I thought I'd offer an update with some other sources to check out if, like me, you … Continue reading Update: The Hart Family Case

Transactional allyship

This is a horrifying cultural moment globally for many reasons. Something very strange erupted in a corner of the internet I happen to frequent and it really underscores for me the self-centered nature of many supposed progressives and allies, which I think is what inherently underlies a lot of atrocities committed in the world. Queer … Continue reading Transactional allyship

Violence is never “senseless”

Another act of violence is in the news this morning, and a lot of people are calling out the "senseless" nature of it. And I know that the sentiment behind it is to convey a sense of tragedy, but words matter. And when we say it's senseless, we're saying that it makes no sense, which … Continue reading Violence is never “senseless”