For those who learned to endure

I was talking to someone recently about the astoundingly ignorant response of "Why didn't they just leave?" that people give sometimes in response to things like abusive relationships or cults or toxic friendships and things of that nature - and how people who have never been in those situations like to convince themselves that they … Continue reading For those who learned to endure

Give yourself the gift of anger

I found this in my online travels, and since I'm not much for the "traditional" Western Christian version of Christmas, I thought - here's an actual useful lesson for the holiday that purports to be about lessons: It's okay to hold onto anger. You are not obligated to forgive. Not "because it's family." Not "because … Continue reading Give yourself the gift of anger

A-ego

I remember back in my first grad school program in the early 00s, we explored the idea of whether or not something can exist outside of language. And yes, of course it can objectively, but if there's no language to describe it, does it really exist? What does it mean to exist? Does it mean … Continue reading A-ego

Unmoored

Every time I finish a writing project and put myself on hiatus, I end up feeling all weird and anxious and like I'm forgetting to do something really important. It's much worse this time, because I've become so disciplined about writing that now I feel almost a bit lost. I have other writing projects I'm … Continue reading Unmoored

The return of the romantic friendship?

I've been reading a lot about women's history - lesbians, flappers, the odd renegade - including romantic friendships, which were a trend in centuries past when gender was binary in a way that we are slowly evolving out of today. A romantic friendship prior to the late 1800s was usually a relationship between two young … Continue reading The return of the romantic friendship?