I was talking to someone recently about the astoundingly ignorant response of "Why didn't they just leave?" that people give sometimes in response to things like abusive relationships or cults or toxic friendships and things of that nature - and how people who have never been in those situations like to convince themselves that they … Continue reading For those who learned to endure
It's the end of another calendar year, and it's tradition to have new year's resolutions. I don't do that anymore. My goals are ongoing. But I do like to reflect a bit, because one thing I've noticed as I've traversed further into adulthood is that if you're willing to work at it, your level of … Continue reading The end of all things 2021ish
I found this in my online travels, and since I'm not much for the "traditional" Western Christian version of Christmas, I thought - here's an actual useful lesson for the holiday that purports to be about lessons: It's okay to hold onto anger. You are not obligated to forgive. Not "because it's family." Not "because … Continue reading Give yourself the gift of anger
I remember back in my first grad school program in the early 00s, we explored the idea of whether or not something can exist outside of language. And yes, of course it can objectively, but if there's no language to describe it, does it really exist? What does it mean to exist? Does it mean … Continue reading A-ego
Every time I finish a writing project and put myself on hiatus, I end up feeling all weird and anxious and like I'm forgetting to do something really important. It's much worse this time, because I've become so disciplined about writing that now I feel almost a bit lost. I have other writing projects I'm … Continue reading Unmoored
"When a boy changes his life, it's called an adventure. When a girl does the same, it's only a fairy tale." - Emma Donoghue I recently listened to Emma Donoghue speak through Denver's Pen & Podium series, and she's lovely. And her books are dark twisted places that always manage to surprise me in various ways, which … Continue reading There’s life in a fairy tale
I've lived in Colorado for a long time, and for much of that time, condensation on glasses wasn't something that necessarily happened all the time. That requires humidity. And as anyone who lives in a humid state knows, a glass of ice water will quickly begin to rain water droplets down its side when exposed … Continue reading Condensation
The botanic garden in Denver has a stunning display of Irises...click on the title of this entry to see them.
Natural sundial? This horseshoe crab got stranded on a beach. May is their spawning season. Sometimes as the tide goes out, the horseshoe crabs get stranded. If they got turned over on their back, they're often too weak to flip back over and scurry back into the water. Spawning is tiring work. Don't worry - … Continue reading Circle of life
I've been reading a lot about women's history - lesbians, flappers, the odd renegade - including romantic friendships, which were a trend in centuries past when gender was binary in a way that we are slowly evolving out of today. A romantic friendship prior to the late 1800s was usually a relationship between two young … Continue reading The return of the romantic friendship?