Circle of life

Natural sundial? This horseshoe crab got stranded on a beach. May is their spawning season. Sometimes as the tide goes out, the horseshoe crabs get stranded. If they got turned over on their back, they're often too weak to flip back over and scurry back into the water. Spawning is tiring work. Don't worry - … Continue reading Circle of life

The return of the romantic friendship?

I've been reading a lot about women's history - lesbians, flappers, the odd renegade - including romantic friendships, which were a trend in centuries past when gender was binary in a way that we are slowly evolving out of today. A romantic friendship prior to the late 1800s was usually a relationship between two young … Continue reading The return of the romantic friendship?

Out.

Like most communities, we run a spectrum. Some of us come out. It's timed, planned, rehearsed. Maybe it's even spontaneous, but we've been practicing it in our heads for a while. Some of us don't come out so much as we just finally explode. It's not a planned conversation so much as it's you sitting … Continue reading Out.

The thing that took me 40 years to say out loud

I've known this internally for a while, and was massively stressing out about how and where and when to say it, but it was only fairly recently that I finally burst and finally just said it - I'm asexual. More specifically, a panromantic asexual, and even more specifically, a panromantic asexual who lingers near the … Continue reading The thing that took me 40 years to say out loud

I write so that we can meet again

I write because I have to keep talking to you. Because I want to meet you again - out of time, out of memory.I want to be surprised by you again, to be drawn into your story.I want to be curious about you again.I want to hear you, and feel heard.I want to unravel you, … Continue reading I write so that we can meet again

We have to do better

The U.S. election has just been called for Biden/Harris, and I'm definitely relieved. There's a lot of work that needs to be done in this country, and having a Biden/Harris administration will make that work somewhat easier to do. But unfortunately, this country has opened up the closet and pushed out all the skeletons. Our … Continue reading We have to do better

Musing about problems…

Peeking out of my exhaustion to think about problems, and identifying problems, and solving problems. The world has a lot of problems. So, so many problems. But I've gotten two pieces of advice this year that, quite frankly, astounded me in the simplicity of their wisdom...and both pieces of advice came out of discussions about … Continue reading Musing about problems…

I made a thing.

I really am good at going silent. I think of things constantly that I could bring here, write about, poeticize, eulogize. But I don't, because here's the thing - I wrote a book. More specifically, I wrote a book while living with an incurable chronic illness that's slowly eroding away at my energy level. (I … Continue reading I made a thing.